Understanding the Expression

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When a caregiver experiences the thought, but refrains from voicing, “why won’t they just die!” they are not actually expressing a wish for the death of their loved one. Rather, this expression is a way of venting their frustration and feelings of helplessness. 

Caregivers provide care out of love and obligation, but it can be exhausting, especially when the recipient's needs are demanding.

It's important to understand the context in which caregivers use this expression. It's often used in a moment of overwhelm, a time when the caregiver feels that they've reached their limit. It's also expressed out of a sense of desperation, a situation where they feel like they're running out of options.